Dwelling in Your Happiness

[been realizing some negative stuff abt pplz lately... juz thought i'll share it... then i can help myself stop from doing the same... =S Hui]

So a friend of yours comes running up to you in the most exciting fashion, out of breath and totally stunned with words upon breaking some good news to you. Finally when they do, you'd comment on what happened to them for a bit... then... the conversation turns around- you have moved the spotlight onto yourself.

I guess this is human nature, as everyone does it, but when I do it, I try to stop myself, as that point in time is not about me, it's about you. A lot of the time when I share something interesting with someone else, I can never be sure that they appreciated what I said to the full extent, as the dialogue somehow moves onto a similar topic, but of their own personal experience- and I'm expected to comment on that instead, rather than on the initial good news that I brought to share.

I guess when we converse, we share personal experiences as part of relating to others, to the subject, to the conversation itself. The only difference, at this point in time, is that someone else has something that they are exploding inside in wanting to tell the world about, but all you can do is tell them something else and make sure that they dwell on that instead?! I find that absolutely selfish and quite inconsiderate- without giving the other person time to share something joyous with you, you rob them of their excitement, as if trying to out do them in bringing up something that is "even better" on a similar subject.

Please, give the other person some time in the spotlight, share their joy with them, and then move onto something else. When it is obvious that they have had their good time in sharing, then relate by sharing your experiences, of course, never forgetting to revisit the initial happiness. Feel good for other people too- not only yourself.

Hui Hui ^^b